Getting over a break up is by no means an easy process. The break up has occurred because something was not right with the relationship itself, there is nothing wrong with you. Break ups are a nasty business and it often seems like you won't be able to come out of one alive.
You may find yourself thinking 'What if I had done…' or 'Should I have done this…'; this is normal, but you should try and refrain from thinking thoughts such as these. Being angry or depressed about the end of a relationship is perfectly normal. You may feel angry about the end of your relationship.
Give yourself time to feel the loss, however remain aware of just how much time you are taking to do so. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, however be sure you only let your anger out in an appropriate environment.
Remember, it is ok to cry, in fact crying is one of the best means of 'getting it all out' and letting go. Crying, talking with a trusted friend or beating a pillow are all healthy and appropriate ways of expressing your feelings and by acting in such ways you allow yourself to accept and ultimately let go of these emotions.
Self blame is a common emotion that people experience during a break up. Breaking up is not anyone's fault.
Acting in a vindictive way towards your ex will only result in you feeling worse at a later stage and appearing small and petty to others. Just because you have been hurt does not mean you have the right to hurt others, even if they have done something to deserve it.
Getting over loss can take some time, so don’t resent yourself if you find you are having an extremely emotional day, remember, this is perfectly normal. You will have good days and you will have bad days, remember to take each day at a time and allow yourself the time and space to come to terms with the situation.
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Sunday, August 31, 2008
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